Coheed & Cambria - Welcome Homen {Use genius for this one and you'll get a great mix.}
I am finally hitting another growth spurt. I've been going to the gym, and finally I weigh 180 lbs which I've been trying to hit for about 4 years now. So I've been told for many years now, as I get older, I will become more and more of an 'item' for the ladies. I guess it's coming true and there are a few things I'm still in a lack of understanding with. I know its stupid to even make the smallest attempt at understanding the opposite sex, but the one saying that is almost antagonizing one to go for it.
So what I don't understand is where common courtesy got lost in conversation. Technology offers one convenience of the whole "I'll get back to you" thing, with text messaging, e-mail, and social networks such as facebook and myspace. With text messaging your never certain if the message was recieved on the other end becasue of the excusable commonly unreliable service. So lets say with doubt of that excuse; you send an inviting text message, or a question concerned with anothers well being, and you never get a reply. What is that supposed to mean? Why does the other end sometimes send the same text message twice in a row if you don't respond fast enough? These are all variables that I cannot compute with and will categorize them into a new "mathematics" called "Neo-Dating". It basically seems like an insecurity and a security at the same time. Apparently you text the person back 90% of the time because you are intrigued by their intrests. The other 10% of the time in which you do not respond is very rude, narcissistic and quite honestly an abuse that portrays manipulating characteristics. This starts a game, whether or not you (the male) has gotten in their (the female) pants, it remains a challenge to conquer and come out on top, regardless of the stressful drama that everyone complains about and exxaggerates. What happend to 2-way conversation? Weren't the 90's the era where women were starting to come out on top and the focal point of independence? Why does a male have to drive a nice car, pay for every date, and be well composed in dating etiquette (being a player) to come out on top and have a woman at his heels? Things are wrong, deuschebags always win, and nice guys finish last. Answer me why women have strayed from their dominant desires into co-dependent corners dizzy with confusion.
Here is my protocol:
*I see a girl that I feel indimidated by due to their attractiveness.
*I either do, or don't have the confidence (balls) to approach them.
*I engage in conversation, try to get to know the girl as much as possible with an incognito twist so it doesn't seem like im desperate.
*I decide whether or not I feel like I can make their life better by taking them out on a date and letting them subconciously know that I am quite possibly interested in a more personable experience with them (not sex)(yet).
*I ask them for their number, and depending on the time of day I wait untill the appropriate 'non-desperate' time to send a text message telling them the experience meeting them was nice.
*If they reply with interest, I ignore further texting, and choose to call them in a couple days to inquire on their availability to go out for an evening, most likely dinner but I will settle with a movie.
*After the date (which I never kiss on the first date, I have respect), I will never text back, they are always the first to text back, becasue if they like me and want to do it again as badly as I, they should be anxious enough to do so.
*If I get a second date, I try to get creative with something to do, in order to impress them and let them get to know me on a real level and project a scenario perfect for the 'first kiss'
*Third date means we're dating (and I will drop my drawers given the right scenario) and from there if I don't like them, I am HONEST, I will tell them that I don't see it going any further than what it is, but I obviously like the way things have been going and either keep dating (and 'love making') or just be friends.
Where am I going wrong, and why is a communicative negligent dating status right?
